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I'll Be Honest With You. I Don't Like the Word Memoir

by Carlos Garbiras
Mar 07, 2026
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There. I said it. 

If you say the word memoir people think of one very specific thing. A famous person. An extraordinary life. Extreme trauma, told with enough literary distance to make it feel inaccessible to the rest of us.

And that framing excludes normal people like you and me.

So let me tell you about the other memoir stories. The ones I actually help people write.

The story grandpa told every Sunday night at the dinner table that nobody ever thought to write down. The one about the sacrifices your parents made so you could be the first person in your family to go to college. The one about how you met your wife — the real version, not the one you tell at parties.

And they all have the same name. But only one is truly important to you and it's not the fancy-fartsy one.


Most people don't finish their memoirs.

Not because they don't care. Because the gap between sitting down and having something real in your hands is long enough that life fills it back in every single time.

Here's what I know from working with writers who actually finish.

The ones who complete their memoirs are not the ones with the most talent, the most time, or the most dramatic stories.

They are the ones who had a structure that made the next step obvious — and a deadline that made the next step now.

One story in four days is not a shortcut. It is proof that the rest of the memoir is possible.

And once you have that proof in your hands, the 30-chapter outline waiting for you on Day 4 stops looking like a mountain. It starts looking like a plan.


The Story Frame Sprint starts March 9th. Four days. One hour each. $297.

You will receive unlimited access to all sessions' recordings if you sign up before the invitation expires.

Get your sprint ticket

Happy telling!

-Carlos


P.S. Optional Day 5 — Memoir Café — is where twelve writers read their completed stories aloud to each other. Included free. It is full of the memoirs that matter — not the fancy ones. The real ones.

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